Three years ago, I came to San Francisco fresh out of a very serious relationship. My day dream was that I’d meet a guy in a coffee shop. He’d come up to me and say something like, “I read that book too!” And the stars would align.

Cut to telling one of my BFF’s this and she was like (verbatim), “yeah girl that’s not going to happen. Guys don’t really approach girls anymore. You haven’t been single in a long time… everyone here uses dating apps now.”

I was like, Um…. no. That’s weird!! Pass.

It took me two years to try one out. What changed? Well… I realized something. I’m very career focused. I’m more of an introvert. When I go out, I’m with my girlfriends… I’m focused on them. Not guys.

I care about love but.. I don’t make enough time for it. I don’t want to go out all the time. So how am I to meet guys? I’ve also had men tell me that I put off this “don’t even think about approaching me” vibe. Which is weird… because girls always feel like they can come talk to me! I’m super friendly, I promise!

So to save time, I joined a dating app. And yes, the whole relying on tech thing bugs me. Dating apps are not a perfect system. But it’s just the way most people are meeting these days. If anything, it’s efficient.

When I got in contact with The Inner Circle dating app, I was intrigued. I had seen their ads all over Facebook. I had a girlfriend tell me she was really liking the men on there.  They throw some awesome parties. They didn’t seem snobby like The League (sorry but The League can be snobby!) and they didn’t seem oversaturated like Bumble. I’m over both of those.

The difference with The Inner Circle app is that there is a lot more information provided. Height. The type of places they’d like to go. Places they’ve traveled. Preferences for kids or not. Smoking or not. Place of origin. Other little fun things to fill out. Look- some things on dating apps will be superficial but being able to cut through the noise is part of it, you know? We know what we like. If we don’t have a preference, cool!

So The Inner Circle works like this: Anyone can message you. At first it’s like this huge influx of messages but then it settles down. You don’t have to reply. There’s no swiping and waiting to see if someone matched with you. It’s just different. Not everyone is allowed on the app either. There is a screening process.

The guys on it are REALLY nice. Like I have not gotten one creepy message. And the Inner Circle party I went to was SO FUN. Everyone was talking and having a good time. It was a very high caliber of men and women- just great character all around. No drama, no thirst… it was nice. I appreciated that Inner Circle brings online dating offline.

So would I say give The Inner Circle a try? I WOULD. I really would. If you never try, you’ll never know! Sign up here and let me know how it goes!

Katey Yurko
Katey || INFP || Founder/Director of Violet Fog ||

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Katey Yurko

Katey || INFP || Founder/Director of Violet Fog ||

2 Responses

  1. Laura

    I’m 40 years old and I’ve never been asked out on a date. I talk men into going out with me online. THAT’s how dating is in SF. 🙁

  2. Nat

    I am an INFP And live in SF. We should meet Katey. Last time I approached a cute girl she said: “look for me onTinder” I was puzzled. Old fashion dating is almost dead


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