***Oldie but goodie 🙂


I accidentially liked the picture of an ex fling’s new girlfriend once and I about DIED. Diiiiiiiiiied.

Let me give you the back story:

Last summer I dated a guy. It didn’t work out, but it had been a real enough “fling” to mean something to me back then. I wouldn’t say I was starry eyed over him, but… *sigh*… yes I was definitely drawn to him. We dated for 3ish months. So obviously not super serious…but, you get the picture. Towards the very end I had been debating in my head out loud with my friends on whether or not we should break it off.

I liked him… but in my heart I just knew he wasn’t the one for me. I could sense he maybe felt the same. But what pissed me off SO BAD is that this motha f*cka beat me to the punch in initiating the breakup. Didn’t matter that I agreed.. since HE said it first, it more-so felt like I was the one being broken up with. One of his reasons? He didn’t “have time to start a ‘real’ relationship” with his grueling work schedule. I thought, aight playa, I salute you.. go make dat monayyyy. Thank ya kindly I’ll do just fine!

…Basically I was a baby bit bummed but I bounced back quickly. 😉

Now I say this jokingly, but flash forward maybe one month and this fool is in a full blown relationship with some chick from across the globe. Suddenly he had time to date someone… from… ACROSS. THE. GLOBE. She was from Finland, Norway.. I don’t know, somewhere like that. She’s super tall, looks like she works out 4 times a day, just gorgeous. And it looks like she travels a ton and does all these cool things too. Yeah. Da fuqqqq right? So annoying. But how did I know all this?

Uh because I creeped on her instagram, DUH. Is the sky blue? Do horses neigh? You better buhLIEVE my ass was curious to see what this girl was about. Who cares about the dude, I just wanted to see what different super powers this woman had from me. She was the next girl you know?! I’m curious… sue me. lol. But yes of course it turns out she’s near perfect. Ugh!..Whatever… 😛 .. I’m still pretty great too! I didn’t let it phase me.

That is until one night when I was randomly, randomly creeping AND THIS SHIT HAPPENED:

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Mortified. And this was months later too. I was over the guy but every now and then I’d creep Norway chick’s page just because… I mean, I don’t know? Curiosity I guess! Boredom! I was intrigued to see who came after me! And that was it. Not a care in the world about those two until I liked her damn picture and then felt like my character was at stake. I could not forgive myself! It was stupid. I thought for sure she’d think I was either obsessed with her or still liked her boyfriend. As if! lol

One of my friends once liked her guy’s ex girlfriends photo from back in TWO THOUSAND AND TEN. 2010. Damn!!! Cue the shame on that one!! We agreed that yes, the girl probably felt some sick satisfaction from knowing she was on her page and yes, she probably did laugh about it to her friends. But hopefully would never tell the guy. Both situations… shitty. But was it really worth us dwelling?

This whole “accidental liking” thing seriously got me thinking.

We shouldn’t get so upset if we accidentally like a photo because deep down we know that all girls creep.

Flip side. Receiving an obvious accidental like: we shouldn’t feel satisfaction from that (or worse- use it as emotional ammo) when we know that EVERY. GIRL. CREEPS. Ourselves included!

Even when it doesn’t involve a past or current lover. We also creep on frenemies. On girls going after the same job/title/dream as us. On girls who just bug us. On random girls we don’t even know. We creep. We just do. So why the shame if we get caught?

Because honestly y’all, creepin’ doesn’t mean we feel threatened or obsessed. Or shit maybe we are a little bit! But 9 times out of 10 we’re just curious! Sue us for being human. And to those girls who say things like, “be careful not to double tap!”… please. Get off your high horse.

So in the future, if you receive a “like” from your ex’s new girlfriend… don’t go tooting your own horn. Because of course she wanted to see who his ex was, she’s into this guy! Cut a girl some slack. Sheeeeit.

And if a frenemy likes your photo? Easily coulda been you liking hers so just forget it!

Dating someone and his ex likes your photo? Respect a sista, don’t laugh at her or go telling everyone. Maybe she’s still heartbroken, or maybe she’s just scopin’ you out in the spirit of interest. Let’s be nice and pay no mind. #NiceGirlClub.

And if you don’t creep- damn you’re a rarity. I applaud you but still kinda think you’re lying lol.

Bottom line, I think us women as a whole can relieve this social anxiety entirely if we ALL agree to shrug it off without word when receiving a very obvious accidental like. Social media is there for creepin’ and we all do it.

Maybe we should strive to create a universally more supportive environment for us gals by cutting each other some slack. Being nice will never go out of style.

Share your creeping’ stories below! This is juicy stuff!!!!

 

Katey Yurko
Katey || INFP || Founder/Director of Violet Fog ||

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Katey || INFP || Founder/Director of Violet Fog ||

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